This idea of a threesome has been going through your head for a while now, this widespread fantasy that turns you on but at the same time poses a real headache. Do you want to make your threesome fantasy come true in the best possible way and not turn everything sour? To do this, you will need to follow a few simple rules depending on your situation, single or in a relationship. The threesome is the fantasy of more than one in two men and more than one in four women, so it is appropriate to dig a little deeper into the subject.
The threesome is a subject often brought up during discussions with friends. There are the refractories who are fiercely opposed to it and the adventurers who want to brave the mystery that surrounds this act, so it is normal to want to try but also natural to be afraid of the possible consequences. We will not try here to change anyone's point of view on the issue, but rather to guide people with this recurring fantasy and wishing to achieve it to do so in the best possible conditions.
Here you will find a guide to the essential points that should not be overlooked to ensure that the experience is satisfactory if you decide to take the plunge.
The question was approached according to the situation in which you find yourself, single or in a relationship, because the stakes and the way of doing things are totally different.
Summary :
1. Have a threesome when you are single
1. You are single
This is the "simplest" situation because it does not endanger a relationship. Nevertheless, it is necessary to make sure to do it with the right people. In most situations, a single person will have a threesome with an ex or a friend because generally it is easy to talk about it with people who are sentimentally close to us.
a. Threesome with an ex
This situation is perilous in the event that one of the two exes still finds himself having feelings for the other. Suddenly, the risk that this person does it to keep a link with the other is great. In this case, the threesome can turn into a nightmare for the person concerned, especially in the days that follow. Thus, it is important that in this situation, the two ex have seen water flow under the bridges relationally speaking . You have to be clear about your feelings and especially not do it as the last chance to win someone back. The choice of the third person should preferably focus on an unknown person with whom we will have the minimum of contact thereafter in the event that things go wrong.
b. Threesome with a friend
The threesome with a friend can also be a problem if one of the two has a romantic attraction for the other because after this kind of experience, it is usually not possible to go back. It is a double edged blade because it can make you even more complicit or create an embarrassment that did not exist before. This is why it is very important to talk about it beforehand with the person concerned.
As in the previous case, the best is to do it with an unknown person or with a distant friend, the other situations can add complexity. Above all, you have to be sure to be on the same sexual wavelength as your friend and therefore discuss it a minimum before the act.
c. Threesome with two strangers
This is the ideal situation to test this sexual practice. You are not emotionally involved with the people in the trio, and a bad experience is not too bad because you can cut ties without much difficulty. Although ideal, this is the most difficult situation to deal with on the court as you are in front of two strangers whose sexual tastes you do not know. You must therefore have unfailing confidence, know yourself sexually and be enterprising.
2. You are in a relationship
You have perfect love and get along wonderfully in bed. This is why the very widespread fantasy of the threesome crosses your mind. Do you think about it regularly and want to achieve it without hurting your relationship? It is possible but we will have to set several rules.
First of all, having a threesome when you're in a relationship involves a great sexual openness . You have to be able to know how to differentiate the "couple sex" , which allows you to build your bond over time, from the "spooky sex" , which in this precise case, will exceptionally involve the presence of a third person.
It is essential to know how to make this distinction and to understand that this fantasy is not a substitute for a fulfilling couple's sexuality , which is an essential basis for the realization of such a fantasy.
The sine qua non is to have unwavering confidence in your sexuality as a couple , which allows you to be assured that your partner is fully satisfied with you in bed. Thus, you will be able to tell yourself that this threesome is only the " caviar " which exceptionally complements your regular, healthy and varied " sexual diet ".
Usually a threesome involving a heterosexual couple will in most situations turn to a plan that includes a man and two women. This is due to the fact that Sapphic culture is more prevalent and accepted in our society than male bisexuality and this is why most women are not shy about imagining themselves having an experience in bed with a woman. So we will talk about this situation first and then we will see the situation with two men and a woman.
a. The threesome with two women and a man (FFH)
The main obstacle to carrying out this action in a relationship is the fact that the girl is generally afraid that the man will take more pleasure with the other girl than with her. But yet, the fantasy is there. Why ? Because the girl feels excited to be able to realize her sapphic fantasy without putting aside the carnal pleasures with a man and she very rarely imagines herself watching her man making love with another woman.
The solution is therefore to set rules so that the wife of the couple has total control during the act . Obviously, you will have made sure to choose an unknown girl or almost that appeals to both people of the couple. For everything to go well, it is the couple's daughter who must be at the center of interests and it is even advisable that the man initially avoids extensive contact with the unknown girl.
One can even easily imagine that for this first experience, there is no sexual contact between the man and the woman added and that this is established as a rule. The act must be turned towards the couple's daughter, it is very important that the two girls first realize their Sapphic desires without a possible jealousy being able to be created, due to the contacts between the man and the woman added.
The preliminary games must therefore be created between the two women who will let their excitement rise. As for the man, he will play a role of spectator who will motivate and put at ease the girls with subtle caresses, oriented mainly towards his companion.
It will be up to the couple's wife to decide on the evolution of the act. If she really does not want the man to have contact with the other woman, the man should respect her choice. This first step is essential for the couple's wife to feel confident. It will then be up to her to decide whether the man should play a more important role, for example by penetrating her while the added woman caresses or kisses him.
This maximum avoidance of contact between the man and the woman added reduces the chances that the experience will go wrong and despite everything, the man will have had a good experience.
After taking stock of this first experience, a discussion will be necessary to find out if the fantasy was satisfactory, if it must be repeated and under what conditions, if applicable.
By following these few tips, you should have a rather enjoyable first threesome experience.
b. The threesome with two men and a woman (HHF)
It is becoming more and more common for women to imagine making love with two men even if this case represents a minority of situations (about 10% of women have this fantasy). It is clearly exciting for a woman to have the attention of two men. Much of the advice given for the previous situation can be repeated even if the approach to the act is totally different. Indeed, a man rarely has the fantasy of this type of experience and will often do so only to please his partner or to obtain the counterpart (FFH).
If you have finally agreed to do this, however, be very careful about how it goes.
Choose an absolutely unknown man, who cannot be contacted again later and who cannot be considered a rival by the man, but who must please both people all the same.
As in the previous situation, for the first experience, it is much better to set as a limit that the added man and the woman do not have extensive sexual contact. The act should therefore be limited to light caresses, kisses, but sexual contact with the added man could block and traumatize the companion at first. As before, it is necessary that this first experience be a test of tolerance to what everyone wants.
If the experience proves to be satisfactory, the man will be able to decide on the evolution of this fantasy in accordance with his partner.
But above all, in all the situations mentioned above, it is necessary to have an in-depth discussion beforehand.
At the fateful moment, optionally, you can take a little pick-me-up to break down the embarrassment and social barriers. But also don't overdo it so you don't hide behind the alcohol excuse if things don't turn out the way you want them to.
You are now ready to approach the fantasy of the threesome in the best way.
Always remember that respecting each other's wishes is the most important thing, and never force anything on the other if you are not sure that your partner is completely in agreement.
Do not hesitate to share your experiences or remarks in the comments!
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